This is the third part in a series on the Roman Catholic sacraments. See the index.
Being Vague
In the first two parts of this series, “Why is the Sacrament of Marriage Important?” and “Sacraments are the Reason for the Priesthood“, I explained that Roman Catholics view grace and marriage as fundamental mysteries based on Ephesians 3:1-12 and Ephesians 5:22-33. This is why, for example, the sections on grace in Catechism of the Catholic Church, #1996 through #2005, are a bit vague and indirect, and yet highly complex, in their description of what grace is. For example…
The grace of Christ is the gratuitous gift that God makes to us of his own life, infused by the Holy Spirit into our soul to heal it of sin and to sanctify it.
Sanctifying grace is an habitual gift, a stable and supernatural disposition that perfects the soul itself to enable it to live with God, to act by his love.
Grace is favor, the free and undeserved help that God gives us to respond to his call to become children of God, adoptive sons, partakers of the divine nature and of eternal life.
Over at Sigma Frame, Jack is confused about all the vagueness, so he asks a few natural questions:
— comment by Jack @ Sigma Frame, “A Concise History of Marriage Regulations”
It is actually much worse than this. Roman Catholicism teaches that no layman can interpret scripture and she has only ever infallibly interpreted fifteen verses over seven passages.[1] Layman and churchman alike must dogmatically accept the teaching on her authority. Any attempt to explain it here is neither authoritative nor binding. Explaining it, while possible, truly serves no purpose, as it is only their opinion and can only ever lead to additional disagreement when the layman inevitably introduces errors.
I am not so bound. I can answer the question on the authority of scripture, the Word of God.
On the Nature of Grace
God’s grace is related to God’s love and mercy—his compassion and forgiveness for transgressions. When Paul talks about the “mystery” of grace, he says that the secret has been revealed. He tells us exactly what grace is.
And you were dead in the trespasses and sins in which you once walked, following the course of this world, following the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that is now at work in the sons of disobedience— among whom we all once lived in the passions of our flesh, carrying out the desires of the body and the mind, and were by nature children of wrath, like the rest of mankind.
Grace is the favor of God in the form of his mercy and love that saves us from our sins and grants us eternal life by faith in Jesus Christ alone, not by any work of man.
It is faith that saves, not works. Salvation—which includes the cleansing from sins and the promise of resurrection with Christ—is what prepares and creates us for good works. Salvation is the cause, good works are the effect.
Surely you have heard of the administration of the grace of God that was given to me for you, and that the sacred secret was made known to me by revelation, as I have already written about briefly. So when you read this, you will be able to understand my insight into the sacred secret of Christ, which was not made known to people in other generations as it has now been revealed to his holy apostles and prophets by the spirit, that in union with Christ Jesus and through the good news, the Gentiles are fellow heirs and fellow members of the body and fellow partakers of the promise. I became a servant of this good news by the gift of the grace of God that was given to me by the working of his power. To me, who am less than the least of all the holy ones, this grace was given so that I could proclaim the good news to the Gentiles about the unsearchable riches of Christ, and to bring to light for everyone what is the administration of the sacred secret, which for ages has been hidden in God who created all things. He did this so that through the church the multifaceted wisdom of God would now be made known to the rulers and the authorities in the heavenly places. This was consistent with his purpose throughout the ages that he accomplished in Christ Jesus our Lord, in whom we have boldness and access to God with confidence through our trust in him.
On the Grace of Marriage
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave himself up for her, so that he could make her holy, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he could present the church to himself as a glorious church, not having a spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but so that she would be holy and without blemish. In the same way, husbands are obligated to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself, for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and tenderly cares for it, just as Christ does for the church, because we are members of his body. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and will be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. This sacred secret is great, but I speak in regard to Christ and the church.
Paul had earlier explained that the grace of God is a matter of love, mercy, and sacrifice, but now husbands are to freely show their own kind of grace to their wives by showing love, mercy, and sacrifice, whether or not it is deserved. Just as Christ cherishes his bride—the church—so too are husbands to cherish their brides.
That is the role that the grace of God has in marriage. The grace of God serves as an example of how we are to interact with our wives: in love, mercy, sacrifice for the purpose of living in unity with them. Marriage is ultimately an extension of the Great Commission: to administer grace to our spouse by spreading the Gospel of Grace: the favor of God in the form of his mercy and love that saves us from our sins and grants us eternal life by faith in Jesus Christ alone, not by any work of man. Notably missing is a call to authority, which would completely miss the point.
The role of the Church in marriage provides no clear benefit. It does not directly correspond to relationship positivity, the number of arguments arguments, the quantity and quality of physical intimacy, or the chance of divorce. None of that is what grace is. Even the divorce rate in Roman Catholicism is only slightly lower than the national average, nothing like the single digit percentage (or less) divorce rates found in certain Anabaptist congregations in Lancaster.
The reason for this is plain. Roman Catholics believe that the sacred secret of God is a mystery and a sacrament., based on the flawed logic that I described in detail in the second part of this series. They believe that marriage is a Sacrament, but it isn’t. Consequently, a church marriage adds nothing new of value. If a marriage is successful, it is because of the grace of God worked in them salvation and through that salvation prepared them for good works to walk in them, not because of anything additional that the church provided.
The church not only doesn’t add anything fundamental, but it adds false doctrine. This is actively harmful to a marriage. By teaching couples that marriage is a sacrament—a work—it invalidates what real grace is:
Grace is the favor of God in the form of his mercy and love that saves us from our sins and grants us eternal life by faith in Jesus Christ alone, not by any work of man.
Getting Grace Right
This is not a matter about talking about the same things using different terminology. It’s a matter of getting salvation and sanctification—holiness—wrong. You cannot improve communications about these issues by papering over the issues:
— comment by Oscar @ Sigma Frame, “A Concise History of Marriage Regulations”
You cannot have unity without first purging that which creates disunity. I long for unity, both in the church and in marriage. But I’m often seen as divisive for insisting that we cannot merely set aside our differences and get along with people who disagree with us on the core issues of salvation and repentance from sin. These issues are non-negotiable because they were non-negotiable to Christ. A number of heresies are irrelevant distractions, but this does not include the system of sacraments. I have, and will, seek unity with Christian heretics, but I can never be in complete unity with anyone who gets salvation wrong. How can I? How can you? How can anyone?
For this I will continue to make enemies. I will continue to divide. The more I speak, the more scriptures I cite, the more they will hate me for the disunity that I sow. “Correcting Sin in the Church” requires either actively correcting else cutting out the error. Allowing it to remain and fester means death. The manosphere, for all its intentions, is not dying merely because of too many internal squabbles, it is dying because it largely isn’t following Christ, and perhaps never was.
For example, whenever possible, I have attempted to follow the Christ’s commands in Matthew 18, both publicly and privately. That I have been unsuccessful in the manosphere in every single attempt is indicative of a deep sickness pervading it. It isn’t working.
Being Protestant requires calling the Orthodox and Roman Catholics to true repentance in Christ, or else throwing them out of the fellowship per Christ’s and Paul’s own commands.[2] For decades Protestants have tried to soften this to the point where most will no longer allow such dissent. In doing so, they’ve lost the plot.
Footnotes
[1] Reverend Augustine Di Noia, O.P., Secretariat for Doctrine and Doctrinal Practices, in Washington, D.C. asked an unnamed eminent theologian which verses Rome had interpreted infallibly, who then deferred to Raymond Brown’s article on Hermeneutics in New Jerome Bible Commentary. He replied to Timothy F. Kauffman by this letter here, stating:
[2] Yes, this requires violating comment policies, such as “Comments vehemently attacking religious faiths of any variety are subject to moderation.”
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