Here is the BMI distribution by sex in the United States. Curiously, this is one of a few traits where women tend to be more variable than men!
One of the main reasons I think hypergamy is believed, despite being an illusion, is because statistics are not intuitive. People just don’t naturally see how statistical effects underlie reality and so grasp onto other (incorrect) explanations.
While most traits one has, such as intelligence, has greater male variability, weight (in particular) has greater female variability. What this means, in practical terms, is that there is a significant percentage men and women who will assortatively pair with someone who has a different BMI than they do.
In practice, women are much more likely to be at the weight extremes in a relationship: either much skinnier or much fatter. After all the normal assortative pairings, there are two main scenarios remaining:
The first scenario is where a moderately attractive man couples with a very attractive (i.e. skinny) woman. You’ll see this all the time with average attractive men somehow scoring above-average attractive women.
The second (and more common) scenario is where a titanic moo cow marries an average-looking man.
Let’s examine these two scenarios in the context of the Red Pill and hypergamy.
In terms of mate selection, most men consider weight to be a far more important factor than women do. Consequently, the first scenario is viewed—by both men and women—as only a minor aberration. Nobody complains about it (unless they are jealous). By contrast, the second scenario is considered—by Red Pill men—to be a major distortion: an example, and perhaps a proof, of hypergamy. Men complain about this all the time.
But, here is the thing. Ultimately, some fat woman with a BMI of 48 will have to match with some man with a BMI of, say, 38, or else both man and woman will have to remain single. There simply are not enough “average” women to go around for all the “average” men. Many men—especially those who don’t marry young—will have to marry a “worse” woman, or else remain single.
This is why so many dating sites are filled with ugly women. It is why there are so many tales of woe. It is why the leaked images from the ill-fated women’s app Tea revealed copious numbers of mostly unattractive women. These women are not successful in their attempts at “hypergamy.” Meanwhile, all the “higher quality” men, having missed out of their early opportunities, remain unattached because their standards are too high.
But of course this isn’t really about hypergamy. If marriages were arranged and mandatory, thus eliminating hypergamous choice, those so-called hypergamous pairings of average man and below-average women would still be happening… only they would just be normal, everyday common matches.
You do the math.
You do the math.
During the first month of the CHATEAU,ROISSY did!!
https://heartiste.org/2007/04/23/the-2-8-2-rule/
The 2/8/2 Rule
Apr 23rd, 2007 by CH
In my experience there is a simple and steadfast rule that governs serial dating for men who play the field. For every 12 women a man dates, 2 of those 12 will be hot by his standards, 8 will match him in attractiveness, and 2 will be below his standards. (12 is the magic number since studies on the mathematics of love have shown that on average that is the number of partners a man or woman must date before finding ‘the one’.)
This rule applies to the average guy who is socially competent and reasonably comfortable around women and who has command of some basic game. Men with crippling dating handicaps like having more than 1,000 life-hours logged on World of Warcraft should focus on dating one or two women of any caliber.
The 2/8/2 Rule is not a prescription for dating success, but an observation of the courtship patterns of most players. The rule seems to describe a “stasis point” that men reach when they are actively dating around and have settled into a comfort zone where a balance is struck between hot sex and emotional stress. Since the rule is fluid, any changes in the strength and consistency of a man’s game will move his ratios positively or negatively.
Ideally, you want a 12/0/0 ratio but that would require masterful game plus objectively high status. It is a rare man indeed who manages a 0/0/12 ratio. These types are the gammas who have dropped all standards in order to satisfy their indiscriminate sexual appetites. You will find them at NAAFA mixers and retirement community bingo halls. 0/0/0 men are betas who refuse to budge on their impossibly high standards and instead find an outlet for their probable low sex drives in porn.
2/8/2 is comfortable for most men because it gives them the opportunity to stretch their boundaries a little while not stressing them out too much. Since regular sex without stupendous effort with girls who pass their attractiveness threshold is the principle driving force of men, the bulk of their partners will be the kinds of women other people think are “right” for them. Interestingly, while the game needed to close these mediocre women is unexceptional, the learning gained from being in a relationship with them is much more valuable than any time spent with very hot women. This is because a man can go much deeper with a moderately attractive woman, pushing his game and relationship strategies in all sorts of new directions, without running the risk of her suddenly leaving. A drop-dead gorgeous woman is apt to walk out on him at the slightest infraction of her emotional checklist. His room for error is razor-thin.
This is not to say he should forego aiming high. It is optimal to have put in the effort and bedded at least 2 high quality girls out of the 12 total — the kinds of girls that make other people say “what the hell is she doing with him?” His game needs occasional shakeups like a bodybuilder needs a new eating regimen or a new exercise routine to bust out of a plateau. Only girls whose beauty takes his game to the breaking point are capable of inspiring him to unimagined heights. Any more than 2, though, and he will likely crumble under the pressure, retreating to the familiarity of porn and 3AM garbage time. Bend the ego, don’t break it.
At the tail end, he’ll dumpster dive with a couple of fuglies. As long as he’s quiet about it and wasted little effort chasing her, he can avoid a crisis of self-esteem. Gaming unattractive girls is sometimes necessary to end dry spells. Hapless beginners and insatiable male hos are the most common types of pursuers of the easy notch. Be careful not to make it a habit.
CONCLUSION?
”redpill” ”MEN” should go back to gaming instead of ”blackpilling” by massively complaining!!!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VHNx9cB1lh4
Why Gen-Z Took the Black Pill
261,872 views Apr 17, 2024
You thought the black pill peaked in 2020? bro it’s just getting started.
i sometimes wonder if ”RPGenius” ”leaders” are Gen-Z -”based” langly trollz!!!
It’s not 2/8/2, because the curve is not distributed evenly. There are more women on the…. heavy… tail.
It’s not 2/8/2, because the curve is not distributed evenly.
YEAH but ROISSY & GBFM(with their MASSIVE ambition & wealth of multi-TALENT) always aim high like the U.S. Airforce!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EhBTGMNTehw&list=RDEhBTGMNTehw&start_radio=1
1984 Air Force “Aim High” TV Commercial
Then ”RPGenius” ”leaders” think METOO(after seeing Dalrock’s 2012-2015 success & popularity that he lived off of ’till the end, was given to him by ROISSY,MOSES,JESUS & GBFM !
While forgetting that ROISSY & GBFM along with their ever-present patrons MOSES & JESUS are similar to the following in military actions & lifestyle:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eQPNrsdArQs
U.S. Marine Corps – “The Few. The Proud. The Marines.” Commercial (2003)
Or as spoken here:
14 For many are called (invited and summoned), but few are chosen.-
Matthew 22:14-Amplified Bible, Classic Edition (AMPC)
& in FULL details:
22 And again Jesus spoke to them in parables (comparisons, stories used to illustrate and explain), saying,
2 The kingdom of heaven is like a king who gave a wedding banquet for his son
3 And sent his servants to summon those who had been invited to the wedding banquet, but they refused to come.
4 Again he sent other servants, saying, Tell those who are invited, Behold, I have prepared my banquet; my bullocks and my fat calves are killed, and everything is prepared; come to the wedding feast.
5 But they were not concerned and paid no attention [they ignored and made light of the summons, treating it with contempt] and they went away—one to his farm, another to his business,
6 While the others seized his servants, treated them shamefully, and put them to death.
7 [Hearing this] the king was infuriated; and he sent his soldiers and put those murderers to death and burned their city.
8 Then he said to his servants, The wedding [feast] is prepared, but those invited were not worthy.
9 So go to the thoroughfares where they leave the city [where the main roads and those from the country end] and invite to the wedding feast as many as you find.
10 And those servants went out on the crossroads and got together as many as they found, both bad and good, so [the room in which] the wedding feast [was held] was filled with guests.
11 But when the king came in to view the guests, he looked intently at a man there who had on no wedding garment.
12 And he said, Friend, how did you come in here without putting on the [appropriate] wedding garment? And he was speechless ([a]muzzled, gagged).
13 Then the king said to the attendants, Tie him hand and foot, and throw him into the darkness outside; there will be weeping and grinding of teeth.
14 For many are called (invited and summoned), but few are chosen.
15 Then the Pharisees went and consulted and plotted together how they might entangle Jesus in His talk.
16 And they sent their disciples to Him along with the Herodians, saying, Teacher, we know that You are [b]sincere and what You profess to be and that You teach the way of God truthfully, regardless of consequences and being afraid of no man; for You are impartial and do not regard either the person or the position of anyone.
17 Tell us then what You think about this: Is it lawful to pay tribute [levied on individuals and to be paid yearly] to Caesar or not?
18 But Jesus, aware of their malicious plot, asked, Why do you put Me to the test and try to entrap Me, you pretenders (hypocrites)?
19 Show me the money used for the tribute. And they brought Him a denarius.
20 And Jesus said to them, Whose likeness and title are these?
21 They said, Caesar’s. Then He said to them, Pay therefore to Caesar the things that are due to Caesar, and pay to God the things that are due to God.
22 When they heard it they were amazed and marveled; and they left Him and departed.
23 The same day some Sadducees, who say that there is no resurrection [of the dead], came to Him and they asked Him a question,
24 Saying, Teacher, Moses said, If a man dies, leaving no children, his brother shall marry the widow and raise up a family for his brother.
25 Now there were seven brothers among us; the first married and died, and, having no children, left his wife to his brother.
26 The second also died childless, and the third, down to the seventh.
27 Last of all, the woman died also.
28 Now, in the resurrection, to which of the seven will she be wife? For they all had her.
29 But Jesus replied to them, You are wrong because you know neither the Scriptures nor God’s power.
30 For in the resurrected state neither do [men] marry nor are [women] given in marriage, but they are like the angels in heaven.
31 But as to the resurrection of the dead—have you never read what was said to you by God,
32 I am the God of Abraham, and the God of Isaac, and the God of Jacob? He is not the God of the dead but of the living!
33 And when the throng heard it, they were astonished and filled with [[c]glad] amazement at His teaching.
34 Now when the Pharisees heard that He had silenced ([d]muzzled) the Sadducees, they gathered together.
35 And one of their number, a ”redpill” lawyer, asked Him a question to test Him.
36 Teacher, which [e]kind of commandment is great and important (the principal kind) in the Law? [Some commandments are light—which are heavy?]
37 And He replied to him, You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind (intellect).
38 This is the great (most important, principal) and first commandment.
39 And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as [you do] yourself.
40 These two commandments [f]sum up and upon them depend all the Law and the Prophets.
41 Now while the Pharisees were still assembled there, Jesus asked them a question,
42 Saying, What do you think of the Christ? Whose Son is He? They said to Him, The Son of David.
43 He said to them, How is it then that David, under the influence of the [Holy] Spirit, calls Him Lord, saying,
44 The Lord said to My Lord, Sit at My right hand until I put Your enemies under Your feet?
45 If then David thus calls Him Lord, how is He his Son?
46 And no one was able to answer Him a word, nor from that day did anyone venture or dare to question Him.-Matthew 22-Amplified Bible, Classic Edition (AMPC)