I originally intended this post to be part of my regular “Saturday Misadventures” feature. It was even scheduled for a future Saturday. That was all well and good….until I was mentioned in a directly applicable conversation at Spawny’s Space. But, before we get into that, let’s read the original post. It’s not very long.
Here is another bit of absurd irony by a feminist.
I will use one friend as an example. She went to Harvard, has worked in strategy and VC for years, is a sweet and normal girl who wants to start a family. She tries to date guys, but all of the ones she has tried to be serious with have wasted her time, so she’s trying to optimize for guys that don’t do that now.
She’s driven, smart, talented, funny, kind, and beautiful. She deserves to be one half of a power couple.
Men don’t want that, and they don’t want to be scolded for wanting something else.
The feminist clearly has no self-awareness.
Now, let’s talk about those comments. It all started with a comment by a former, but highly respected, commenter to this blog, Surfdumb. While I tend to avoid the commentary made by others, Surfdumb has earned the right to be respected and to have his comments taken seriously.
Here is the series of comments:
Yep. That’s not even said out of bitterness. Anger, yes, anger at the loss that comes from women denying reality and the destruction of God’s gifts of families and a peaceful society, but not bitterness.
It’s probably strange for the women’s auxiliary or maybe Derek, to read, Fee’s response. I can see them saying:
Derek would say there’s no point in addressing women at all.
The former women’s auxiliary would take it personally and then launch into
–not all women are like that
–i’m not like that
–the women I know/went to school with/church with/talk to aren’t like that
–you’re just bitter/angry
–who hurt you/I’m going to pray for you
etc.
My point about the women’s auxiliary and Derek is that (if they are) dismissing it misses out on an opportunity for wisdom. The fee post can sound bitter, but society is draining, and it’s a god short description of current reality. Wisdom to know the season and then using our ability and armor to stand in the face of it. What armor is needed in saying, they are bitter?” Bitterness isn’t godly and in some situations it’s wisdom to see it and call it out.
First, let’s get something out of the way. The Women’s Auxiliary has been permanently disbanded and isn’t coming back. There will never be another “launch” into anything. Anything more imaginary things said about them will just be shouting into the wind. Congrats, boys, at a job poorly done.
Second, the Commenter is exactly correct. I would say that there is no point in addressing women at all. If you pay close attention to my opening comment, you’ll see I did exactly that:
Men don’t want that, and they don’t want to be scolded for wanting something else.
This is about men, not women.
Society got the way it was because of the decisions of men and if it is ever going to change it will be because of the decisions of men. If there is one thing I’m consistent on, its that I don’t blame women for the bad things that happen in marriages. Men have all the tools required to fix what is broken. That’s what real patriarchy is: men having the agency to do what needs to be done and exercising that agency by doing it without making excuses.
Third, Surfdumb is right too. A majority of men are still doing it right. The problem is there is insufficient critical mass. Not enough men are doing it right. I’m not sure I’d say “The market only needs a few tweaks” as the problems are pretty monumental and numerous after a generation or two of corruption, but they do mostly involve men getting better. It would be nice if women would get better on their own too, but it’s not a requirement in order for men to act.
What’s that the Bible says about heaping coals on the top of heads? Seems to apply here.
Fourth, as my comment above affirms, Feeriker is also quite correct:
This is what is called “mainlining copium.” It might also be referred to as “self-delusion.”
The truth is that these excuses are all secondary, maybe tertiary explanations as to why older women are being ignored by men. In reality, women of ALL ages are being ignored by more and more men. The reason is much simpler and more fundamentally prosaic than those offered above.
The reason men are avoiding you women is that we’ve had ENOUGH of you. Like a child who has been gorging on hamburgers made from bad meat, we’re sick of you. Our tolerance threshold has been exceeded. For sixty years we’ve watched you turn from first pleasant, then gradually to disagreeable, then to ugly (in demeanor, not looks), and now finally to intolerable. Seething with envy, hatred, and resentment, only superficially toward us, but really towards yourselves for the stupid, self-destructive decisions you’ve made for yourselves in your younger years. We now have neither the stomach nor the lifetime remaining to waste dealing with it or with you.
We don’t care anymore. You didn’t need or want us, so we adapted. We now no longer want or need you. In fact, seeing and listening to you is at best irritating, at worst nausea-inducing. To give you the time of day would make us the proverbial dog returning to its own vomit. There’s no remotely conceivable benefit in it for us. You didn’t want us in your prime, so we’re not going to support or save you in your decline.
Enjoy the fruits of your bicycle-free lifestyles:
<picture of boxed wine>
<picture of a herd of cats>
<picture of antidepressents>
The fact is, what feminism has done is turn alter the priorties of men and women such that women no longer offer men what they want. Every day it is harder and harder for men and women to assortatively pair effectively. I mean, sure, all men want the physical side of things, but they don’t have to give women anything they want in order to get it. The bottom line is that when it comes to marriage, men don’t want what it is offered. No amount of scolding can improve that, but it can certainly make things worse.
If women don’t need men like fish don’t need bicycles, then, as Feeriker says, “enjoy the fruits of your bicycle-free lifestyles.” Men just want something else.
Fifth, Matt Walsh gets it right too:
Is the “resist not evil”, “turn the other cheek”, pacifist, who doesn’t vote, “because it’s stupid”, now claiming that other men should have stood up and somehow fought against the evils of Feminism every step of the way?
Did you go to fool-school to learn how to take a brilliant mind like yours and end up a useless scold?
Seriously! Your do-nothing Christian dogma is exactly how a Christian-majority nation got to where our nation is exporting abortion, Feminism, gay pride, transgenderism, and the sexualization of children, all around the globe and forcing those evils upon nations led by other religions.
“Resist not evil” was a dose of Jesus sarcasm. The Pharisees followed the law, “an eye for an eye”. And they considered themselves keepers of the whole law and blameless before the law. But Jesus was saying that merely following the law still doesn’t make you equal to the Father in heaven and worthy to dwell with Him. Because the Father is greater than mere law keepers. God doesn’t resist all evil or else there would be none, and the Father doesn’t need to resist evil, because he is indestructible and not able to be defiled by it. Jesus’ point was that (unlike God) they did have to resist evil, or it would destroy them. And since they couldn’t reign above all evil like God Himself, they were going to need a redeemer to cover their shortcoming. And that was why Jesus came. That was Jesus’ Gospel, that He had come to redeem all who fall short of the glory of God, including those who had faithfully kept the letter of the law as best as they could.
If you don’t ever resist evil, that puts evil in charge without opposition, no matter how weak and tiny a minority it once started as, you’ve doomed yourself to succumb to its triumph. You didn’t get the joke. “Resist not evil” and “turn the other cheek” were statements of sarcasm pointing out the impossibility of the Pharisees behaving in the manner of God and not becoming dominated by evil.
Mark 3:27 No man can enter into a strong man’s house, and spoil his goods, except he will first bind the strong man; and then he will spoil his house.
You teach pacifist impotence to the point where Satan doesn’t even need to bind you, because you bind yourself from resisting his evil. The devil’s cosmic joke is spoiling your goods that were entrusted to you by God without even needing to bind you. Satan is making sport, of your seemingly autistic inability to grasp Jesus’ joke, before a great cloud of heavenly witnesses, and you’re too willfully dense to recognize it.